LET PEOPLE GRIEVE

You know, I used to be the person who masked pain with humor. I must admit I have been insensitive towards pain on many occasions. Under the guise of “don’t take life too seriously”. I mean does that even make sense? A blatant No is a fitting response.

Recently I got to explore a different side of grief or let me say pain. I had the most irregular ”feel pain” pattern ever. At first, I was willing to breathe through it, cried a little, told myself I was fine and i thought i had moved on. Weeks went by and out of nowhere, I found myself reliving the entire experience, as if it had just happened. I mean who thinks like that? ME

So yeah I got mad all over again, lashed out, cried more but some part of my brain couldn’t understand why I still felt this grief, this nagging pain.

It didn’t make sense but it was what it was: PAIN.

This got me thinking, we all process pain differently. There’s no right or wrong way.

What I learnt from my ordeal is: rather than bottling up emotions, just let it flow. There’s no such thing as overreacting when it comes to pain.

As much as we were created in God’s image, we’re still just human, right?

When people act out as a result of pain don’t try to understand it, be sensitive to recognize that we’re built differently and our reaction to pain doesn’t make us strong or weak, it just makes us human.

As much as I would love to touch more on this, I think I’ve said(typed) enough. I hope you allow yourself to feel and make room for others to feel too. In the end, we will all be fine.

PS: I hope you all are doing well wherever you are. I hope life has not had you in a chokehold or at least I hope you get through it in one piece. I’m sorry I’ve been away, I’m not promising that I will be writing full time but I will try my best to show up whenever time permits me. Thank you all so much for sticking by me through my writing journey. It only gets better from here!

See you in my next publication. Muah!